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I have been going steady with my girlfriend for a bit over 8 months, and we have a good, strong relationship. the question I want to ask is that when I finger her, I don’t get any reaction from her and I don’t think she likes it. I ask her if she likes it and she keeps saying she doesn’t care, and I ask her if she wants it and she says she doesn’t mind, whatever I want. I tell her it is what she wants but she keeps saying she doesn’t care. Am I doing something wrong, or is it just that she might not be turned on by fingering. I would like to know how I could get better at fingering her and how to turn her on better. thanks for your time, Pete.

Dear Pete,
Great question. Most women do not experience a great deal of stimulation or pleasure from penetration alone (finger especially). Most women report increased pleasure when the clitoris is stimulated (rubbed, licked, etc). We understand you want to please her and that may be a way to start. Likewise, maybe you could talk to her – because as you can tell it isn’t really hot to be with someone who just lets you do stuff to them – you want them to like it! We know many people think this is a mandatory sexual behavior on the list of things to do. But, hey if it doesn’t please her or you – why do it? Try some other behaviors (in “safe” ways) to pleasure and be pleasured! Shan & Claude

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